You satisfy me more than the richest feast.Psalm 63:5
I’ve seen the dangers of sexual sin far too closely and far too often. I’m convinced being unsatisfied with God is at the root of the problem.
In 2 Samuel 11, King David slept with Bathsheba and had her husband Uriah killed to cover it up. God called out David through Nathan the prophet for his sin, saying, “I anointed you king of Israel and saved you from the power of Saul. I gave you your master’s house and his wives and the kingdoms of Israel and Judah. And if that had not been enough, I would have given you much, much more. Why, then, have you despised the word of the Lord and done this horrible deed?” (2 Samuel 12:7-8)
David’s motivation to sin was that he was unsatisfied. All that God had done for him wasn’t enough, so he sought more. David believed the lie that God was holding out on him by not giving him Bathsheba. So he took her. His unsatisfied heart led him to “despise the word of the Lord” by giving into temptation and seeking satisfaction apart from God with Bathsheba.
It was the same lie Adam and Eve had fallen for back in Genesis 3. Instead of believing that God’s command was what was best for them, the serpent convinced them that God was holding out on them by not allowing them to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. They were unsatisfied with God’s word to them, so they despised it by disobeying.
Being unsatisfied with God is at the root of the problem of sexual sin. Deep down we think God is holding out on us, so we pursue pleasure in places and in ways that he has told us not to. We look to find sexual pleasure outside of marriage because we think we know better than God. We’re unsatisfied with all that he’s given us, so we look elsewhere to please ourselves instead of trusting him to fulfill us. I regrettably did this earlier in my own life through pornography and I’ve since known and mentored many other guys who have fallen into the same trap.
Hearts unsatisfied with God will always be tempted by the false satisfaction promised by this world. But If God’s not enough for us, nothing else ever will be either. So find your satisfaction in Christ. He is ready to offer us so much more than the lesser pleasures we are too quick to settle for.
If pornography, lust, or sexual sin is something you’ve struggled with and you want to find hope for change in your life, then please don’t hesitate to contact me. If you live in the Willmar, MN area, I’d love the chance to set up a time to meet and talk through this with you. If you’re not nearby, I’d be happy to try and connect you with someone close to you who might be able to help.